Select the friends to whom you want to send a message, or enter their gamertags.
Type your message, and then click Send.
Note Messages are retained for a maximum of 30 days, after which they are automatically deleted.
Private chat is a conversation between you and only one other person. No one else can hear or participate in this chat. Your friend can be playing the same game that you are, playing a different game, watching a movie, or listening to music.
You can have up to four private chats going on at the same time:
During an Xbox Live multiplayer game in addition to your public in-game communication.
While hosting an Xbox Live party.
Start a private chat
Connect your Xbox 360 headset or Kinect sensor, and sign in to Xbox Live.
On the controller, press the Guide button.
Select Chat & IM.
Select an available Private Chat channel, then select or enter the gamertag of the person that you want to chat with.
Select Send Invite. The person you invite has five minutes to accept your invitation. After five minutes, Xbox Live assumes that your friend is unavailable and cancels the invitation. You can try to send another invitation later.
Note When someone declines a chat invitation, the sender doesn’t know whether the invitation expired or was declined. The sender is only notified that the invitation was cancelled.
An Xbox Live party lets you invite up to seven people to communicate online while you all do other activities, like watching movies, playing games, or just chatting.
Anyone who wants to participate in an Xbox Live party must have an Xbox Live Gold Membership and either an Xbox 360 headset or a Kinect sensor. Friends who don’t have an Xbox 360 headset or a Kinect sensor cannot chat but can still listen to the party over their speakers.
You can be in only one party at a time.
A party can contain up to eight people. Once the maximum attendance is reached, someone must leave the party before another person can join.
Start a party and invite friends
On your controller, press the Guide button.
Select Party, and then select Start a Party.
Select Invite Players to Party.
Select or enter the gamertags of the friends that you want to invite to the party. You can invite up to seven people.
Select Send Invite.
Invite a party to a game
You can use parties to invite an entire group of people to play a game, instead of inviting them one by one.
Start a party using the steps above.
Select a multiplayer game.
In the game lobby—the area where players wait for a game to start—press the Guide button.
Select Party, and then select Invite Party to Game. Follow the on-screen directions. You can invite up to seven people.
Note Once players join the game, the conversation switches to the Game Chat channel automatically. To switch back, see Change the chat channel below.
Change the chat channel
You can change the chat channels to choose whom you want to talk to.
Talk to only players in your game
Press the Guide button, then select Party, Party Options, Chat Channel, and Game Chat.
Talk to only members of the party
Press the Guide button, then select Party, Party Options, Chat Channel, and Party Chat.
Mute an individual
Press the Guide button, then select Party, the player's gamertag, and Mute.